How to enjoy healthy relationships, constructive and long-lasting?

There are people who naturally have healthy relationships and constructive: get on well with your family, make good friends and fall in love with the right person to form a happy relationship.

However, most relationships involve a challenge: wear to analyze the weaknesses and to grow. The positive side is that when you transform them, there are great lessons and become a better person.

In the process of learning to interact with others to create healthy relationships and constructive, many times you enredas in toxic relations. When the path to your goals it can be so long and hard, you lose the hope and get to believe that there are no healthy relationships.

In addition, if your childhood experiences, within your family of origin and with the people around you have been suffering and pain, you have not acquired the necessary knowledge to build dynamic healthy with the others. In this article, I will tell you what you need to know to be able to do that.

What are healthy relationships and how to achieve them?

The healthy relationships are those links that forms with the people around you that will nourish and benefit the involved. In them, you and others feel good. There is a positive exchange that uplifts, creates harmony and well-being. Healthy relationships add to your life. Are relations of love in the das which is of benefit to the other person and only you take what you do well to thee.

3 qualities of a healthy relationship

I could give you a huge inventory of qualities that distinguish the relationship healthy and constructive, but I will focus on three that I consider essential, because I have observed in every healthy relationship that I know of.

Without these qualities, you will feel that your relationship you drained in place of nurture yourself. Analyzes if this happens in the most important relationships of your life today to help you identify if you are healthy and you can make the changes that suits you.

1. Respect

This includes recognizing each one for who he is: give and take the rightful place within the relationship and to validate the needs, desires and decisions of each person. Respect is an essential ingredient of healthy relationships and constructive.

2. Gratitude

As the gratitude opens the doors of heaven, what happens in your relationships when you are full of it is that you connect with the highest and the best thing is the other person.

In this way, you manage to create healthy and constructive relationships, since the other person gives you abundantly, feeling valued and recognized by you.

In contrast, when a person is ungrateful, others lose the desire to give and be kind with it. What have you noticed?

3. Communication

In order to have healthy relationships and constructive, you need to communicate what is important and necessary. If you keep secrets that weigh, say half-truths and hidden pain by avoiding a fight. The relationship will eventually get sick and die.

Also damage the relationship when you communicate hurtful things and not with the clear goal of making a positive change, as they say to hurt and make you feel bad to the other person, and as a revenge because you're angry.

In communication it is important to the content and the form, that is to say, what you say and how you say it. Communication is an art, and the good thing is that you can learn it.

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Keys to healthy and constructive relationships

You can learn how to create healthy relationships and constructive at developing the skills to generate the qualities already mentioned in your relationships with others. I share the five keys to achieving this:

1. Focus on what you like

There are things that you like and others that you dislike. This is completely normal. The ideal thing is to recognize both poles: the positive —what you like— and the negative —what you dislike—. The first key to enjoying healthy relationships and constructive is to put your attention on what you think positive of yourself, the other person and of the situations that are presented to you, without denying what you dislike.

This is not to paint the world pink; recognizes the colors that are there, but put your attention only on those who enjoy it.
This key works because where you put your attention, you put the energy, and it is going to grow. When you put your focus on what you like, you'll be feeding it and you'll get more of what you like.

For example, if your partner brought you some flowers that you liked and I said a comment that upset you, choose to put all your attention on the flowers during the week. At the end of this time, watch what happens in the relationship.

2. Listen carefully

Stay in touch with what happens to you in your relationships with others, it is of vital importance. This item includes recognize what you need and what you would like to receive. It is a healthy't expect to be treated with respect and receive good things from the people that surround you, as this will make all the difference at the time of set limits and be able to ask clearly for what you want. 

3. Listen to others carefully without forgetting yourself

Stay neutral, no hook up emotionally when the other person is expressed, it is one of the keys to creating healthy relationships and constructive. To be able to do this without forgetting you is important as you will be able to occupy your place at the side of the other person as an equal, not put on mat or in the attitude of having to sacrifice to be in the relationship.

4. Give importance to what is really important

This key refers to learn to prioritizeby understanding what it is that really matters and distinguishing what is a temper tantrum.

5. Express your gratitude with words and acts of kindness.

Gratitude has one of the highest frequencies, capable of dissolving big and old anger and resentments. Being able to convey gratitude is a magical key to manifesting healthy and constructive relationships.

Say what you feel with clarity and generosity, showing your gratitude with words and acts of love, will make magic in your relationship.

Dare to experiment with these five keys!