The way in which loyalties to family affect your relationships

Have you felt that you are in a toxic relationship? Do you want to know how to free yourself?

When a relationship takes on place of nurture yourself; when instead of receiving you end up drained(or) to be with that person, you're in a relationship toxic.

It is true that the initial reason for which you establish relationships with others is to receive something that you're lacking and to share with another what you have to give. Unfortunately, this concept is distorted in relationships toxic.

 

How to know if a relationship is toxic or healthy?

The relationships are to nurture yourself to make you happy.

A healthy relationship is a link that prompts you to life and give the best of yourself, (or). In a healthy relationship, you get something that you lack, and that brings well-being. This should bring joy to your life and to give a meaning to what you do. A relationship is toxic when the opposite occurs, and instead of nurture yourself and make yourself happy, you it sucks and makes you unhappy.

We talk about toxicity when your connection with that person stops you from moving forward or will make it more difficult. It is toxic because it hurts you, you removed energy and will not let you go forward and pursue your goals. In theory, it seems very simple, but in practice is complicated because it is not so obvious.

Most of the people who are in relationships that are toxic not realize thisand it is you who are like whirlpools in the ocean. Imagine that you are swimming in happy, splashing around in the waves and, suddenly, you pull the foot until you touch bottom. Don't you hear how it happened! What is evident is that the happiness evaporates when you're head, swallowing water and sand. What is important is that you realize it now and learn how to identify which of your relationships are toxic and which are not.

 

 

Do you know why you might be entangling yourself in these unhealthy relationships?

There are many reasons that lead you to become involved in a relationship toxic. One of them is by the loyalties family. It is a love that is blind, that leads to behave as they did or do on your family. These loyalties to family —systemic— are recorded on a subconscious level, which means that you don't know. That is why they are so dangerous, because you have to react in ways that you move away from what you really want and your goals.

For you, that is what you consider "normal", as the familiar things seem "right". A person who is born in a family, in which the normal are toxic relations will be scheduled to create them or go into them.

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Examples

Erika, whose parents have maintained for many years a relationship toxic, grew up believing that this is love, so they ended up repeating that dynamic toxic in their relationships. It is what is known, what is safe and what makes you feel at home.

Alicia grew up in a family in which the women have been beaten and deeply offended. She learned that this was “normal” and ended up looking for subconsciously relationships in which lives abuse, continuing the same story.