What to do to no longer load with what damages you of your mother

The relationship with your mother is very important, because it is the first link that forms in your life; this will be the reflection of all the others who have.

The connection that you have with your mother is linked, in addition, with the relationship you have with your body, the earth, food, and abundance. She gives energy of life since you're in the womb.

But this bond with your mother can be affected in different ways, bringing negative consequences to your life.

Many people who write to me tell me that his biological mother does not deserve to be his mom; they feel that they really deserves to be is the aunt, the grandmother that took care or adoptive mother. Maybe this is your case.

Another scenario is that perhaps your mother is present in your life, but the problem is that criticizes you or is aggressive with you, and that's why you refuse.

Regardless of what the case may be, with which you identify, the issue is that reject your mom damages yousince you're going to repeat history, or pattern.

How is it repeated?

If your mother criticized, you're going to criticize, or you are going to criticize you love.

What your mom is with you, will you repeat to your children unconsciously, or you are going to attract one or more people to your life that treat you the same way you treated your mother.

Another problem that occurs when you reject your mom is that you close the tube of life that comes from it, which causes it to generate another tube hidden, one that therapists family and I call “loyalty undercover”.

Through this tube hidden passes to you the worst of your mom, or your worst features. You have to remove the tube of loyalty hid and heal the one who is going to give you energy for life.

And then, you may be wondering: how do I do it?, how healthy my relationship with my mother? As there is a healthy way to do it.

If you are linking with your mother in a healthy way, all the relationships you have with other people are also going to flow more easilyeither with your partner, your children or your friends.

I recommend this constellation to achieve. Now I'm going to explain how it works the dynamics.

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Family constellation to heal the relationship with your mother

First, I introduce the image disorderly, that is your problem, what you are limiting and that you want to solve. In this case, to heal the bond with your mother.

1. In this constellation, the figure apple green represents you. If you're a woman, you are the figure round; if you're a man, you're the square.
2. Your mom is represented with the figure circular gray.
3. The figures in the form of sun symbolize the tube of life through which the life-energy that comes from your mom.
4. And, finally the figures in the shape of a star represent the loyalty disguised.

To heal the relationship with your mother, you agree to first is the one who touched you. Sockets power of life and you get separated. This step is important for your well-being. By doing this, you open to take energy of life. Open yourself to take your maternal lineage, and so you will be able to separate you from your mom in a healthy way.

Now, imagine that is in front of you, visualizándote in a different age each time, and say in a loud voice: “Mom, your problems are only yours; your criticism and your judgments are with you, no longer the receipt”.

As you repeat these words, are pulled away from the stars —loyalty hidden— until finally gone the tube loyalty covert, and this is the image ordered. You can do this exercise as many times as you need.

You've done an excellent job, I congratulate you! Since you are at peace and you have filled energy of life.