How to make the right decisions

Make decisions it is a fundamental part of growing up. When you are a girl, your parents or guardians to do for you, but when you become an adult, you must learn to make decisions for yourself. This comes with the freedom to choose what you want in your life, and also with a fear not knowing if you're doing the right thing. To help you make the right decisions, I'll give you a few steps to follow:

1. Recognizes the influence of fear

Don't know if your decision is the best you can give a lot of fear. This comes to cloud your ability to make sound decisions. If you do it from this emotion, you'll be choosing from a position of survival that calls you to protect yourself and to prevent the danger. Fear is an intense emotion, and if you let yourself be dominated by her, you can be paralyzed. For example, consider Martha, who dreamed of changing of work, but he was afraid of losing the security afforded by their current employment. Your fear of change and the unknown kept her tied to a position that no longer satisfied him. Recognize how fear influences your decisions is the first step to overcome it and move forward toward what you really want.

2. Identifícalo

The important decisions involve a change in your life, and this can desestabilizarte, that is why it is normal to feel fear. When fears are so large and abstract, it is difficult to work on and resolve them. An important step is to identify what you are afraid, as if you're putting a name to know exactly what it is.

Let's take an example that is similar to the Martha. Javier afraid of change jobs because they feel safe. Reflecting on this, and trying to go deep in that security that you think you have, you realize that your fear is losing what you have built, especially the relationships formed in their work. The fear of the unknown and of Martha, and of losing the relationships that have Javier are completely different even though both are related to the job change.

3. Reevaluate the decision

Once you have identified what it is that you're afraid of your decision, explórala again with a different perspective and a broader vision. Knowing specifically what you are afraid you have more information to act. In addition, this fear tells you what is important to you and what you should take care of when making your decision.

In the case of Martha, the question changed or not working is to become: “How do I change job and I feel safe?”. In the case of Javier would be: “How do I change job and I keep my relationships? They may need to seek safety, or relations of another form, but the important thing is that they are already acting. Both have gone from a state of paralysis, in which they did not know what to do, one of building your own path; they are deciding how they want to live their change work. In your case, it is important that you know very well the direction you want to take; redáctalo the most specific and clearly as possible to take action. A good example for the case of Marta would be the following: “I Want to change job to fulfill my dreams and feel safe in the process.”

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 4. Passed to the action

Once you have chosen the direction you want, it begins to create a plan of action. To do this, it determines the specific steps that you should take to build a path to your dreams. You can be faced and overcome a specific fear; find other ways to replace a desire, or anything else you need. Try to keep the steps small and achievable, so that you can apply to your plan. It is best to move forward hopping out of your comfort zone and what you are used to.

In the previous examples, Marta could make a savings plan in order to feel safe when you change your job, while Javier could talk with his friends to see outside of working hours, creating different ways of living. Take the decision that you have taken will help to overcome the fear; you are going to make you see that much nearer to your goal and you will motivate them to it.

5. Ask for help

At times, ask for help from people you trust or you admire can offer valuable perspectives. It is important to choose them wisely, making sure that they have the best interests in mind. May be your parents, close friends, a therapist or even a higher being, if you're a spiritual person. It is important to remember that you are not alone in life, and that, even if the roads are personal, you can caminarlos in the company.

Making the right decisions can be scary, but when you apply these strategies, you'll approach closer to your goals. Remember that, in the decision-making process, the Method Magui Block® it is a great support, because that gives you the tools and resources you need to make the best decisions for you, allowing you to move forward with confidence towards your goals and dreams.