Self-care without guilt

Why do you feel sometimes that you don't deserve to take care of yourself and you are filled with guilt every time you do something good for you? Self-care is not just about taking care of your body, but also nourish your mind and spirit. In a fast-paced world, in which the demands and pressure are constant, establishing habits of self-care is a challenge, and that's why you need tools for keeping a healthy balance in life.

Are you taking care of them?

You know that you need to take care of yourself, but, sometimes, you end up wrapped(or) in attitudes and actions that will lead you in the opposite direction. Why is this happening?

There is a tendency among human beings to stay in an area known. The following questions will help you to recognize if you take care of yourself is yours or not:

• Do you listen to your body? When you do so, you acknowledge what you need.
  
• Do you attend to your needs with kindness? For example: if you are tired, rest; if you're thirsty, drink water. Acknowledge if you postpone your satisfaction or you criticism internally thinking: “I should Not feel this”; “First I do this, and when it is done, I will do what I need”.
  
• When you're giving a space to take care of yourself, do you feel guilty?; what gives you anxiety to do something for you? The autojuicios and autocriticas prevent you to enjoy what you do.

If you're able to listen to your body, take care of your needs, kindly, and you feel guilt-free when you do good things for you, it means that you've built the habit of autocuidarte.

If, on the contrary, when you take care of yourself, you have to make an effort, not you manage to keep the commitments that you make to do this and priorizas other activities or people, then you have not integrated as a known part, because you're struggling to keep you in the way of your well-being.

Normally, this all begins in the family, in that thou hast taken of her and the other systems to which you belong. If in them what “normal” is descuidarte, sacrificing yourself for others and fail to recognize your limits and needs, then that is what you do. It is what is known; you are used to(or) live in as well.

Then, autocuidarte is to make your life in a new wayand what new brings some challengesamong them the following:

• You do not have sufficient tools to apply it.
• If you need more energy, focus and effort to do something that you don't know.
• You feel different in your system; no longer fits the same.
• You feel guilt of not to follow the group in their ways.
• You feel that you are rejected or criticized by others.

In addition to these challenges, you might have the idea that you have to earn the right to be well treated(or), as if “normal” out-be abused(or). Then, when you do something well, such as to achieve a goal you took a lot of work or come out ahead after a week particularly difficult, you choose to reward yourself by doing something that in reality mistreat you. For this reason, some people celebrate their accomplishments drinking too much alcohol, eating until getting sick or not sleeping for staying the night in a marathon of television or enjoy.

For many people, is neglected in these ways is “normal”; that is easily and take care of yourself is what it seems difficult. So what you perceive in your system and it is carried out fairly.

Read also: Strategies to achieve to be present in the day-to-day

How to integrate self-care?

To integrate self-care as a natural part of your life, I suggest you to follow the following steps:

Breaking allegiance with the systems to which you belong

A good exercise is to imagine the persons from whom you learned to descuidarte giving you a new positive message. Close your eyes and visualize that you say the following: “you Have our permission and our blessings to take care of yourself, priorizarte and feel very good about yourself(or) every time that you do.”

Establish links with other systems in which "normal" is to take care of yourself

Join groups that have the habit of taking care of and that seems normal. In this way, you'll integrating new rules of life that will help you feel able to practice self-care in your life.

Identify your personal needs

The first step towards a self-care cash is to learn to listen to your body and mind. This implies recognizing when you need to rest, nutrition, exercise, or time alone. For example, if you feel tired constantly, it can be a sign that you need to adjust your sleeping patterns, or your diet. To be able to listen to you need to ask yourself a simple question: “How am I?”, opening your mind to hear the answer.

To effectively respond to the needs

Once you have identified the needs, the next step is to respond to them. This may mean establishing a routine of regular sleep, to participate in activities that you enjoy or seek emotional support when you need it. To respond appropriately to your needs you can ask this question: “What can you improve?”. Generally, the answer comes to you is a step in the right direction.

Set self-care routines

Set some daily routines of self care to help you maintain a balance. This could include practices such as morning meditation, breathing exercises or a time of quiet read before going to sleep. The consistency in these practices, it encourages discipline and self-awareness. I suggest you try a simple routine that takes you about ten minutes and experience the difference.

Sometimes, self-care involves seeking professional help. Whether it be sessions Method Magui Block® or a workshop of growth, to receive expert guidance can be a powerful step to achieve personal well-being.