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The codependency it is an emotional challenge that affects your well-being and creates relationships debilitating. This complex dynamic takes to put the needs of others above yours, losing one's self in the process. For this reason, I want to explore the codependency, to understand how it affects you and how you can release it, to improve your interactions and building relationships healthier.

What is codependency?

It is a way of relating in which you get involved in excess with the care and control of others while neglecting your own needs and well-being. You think, wrongly, that the love and acceptance come from sacrificing your happiness for the welfare of others. In relationships debilitating observed three main roles: the victim, the persecutor and the rescuer.

1. Victim: when a person is in this role you feel helpless and need to be stored or cared for by others. Constantly looking for the help and support of others, without assuming responsibility for their actions.
   
2. Tracker: this is to control and manipulate others to do what they believe is right. He feels obligated to "fix" the victim; it can be critical, dominant or aggressive.
   
3. Salvadorassumes responsibility for solving the problems of others at the expense of their own needs. Feels a compulsion to help and rescue, even without it being requested.

How do I know if I am a codependent person? Two ways of identifying relationships debilitating

Identify codependency is crucial to free yourself and improve your relationships. Here are two ways to recognize it:

• Feeling like a victim. Feel impotence and looking for others will rescue. Do you think your happiness depends on the help of others. Others may take on the role of saviors or persecutors, controlling your life.

• Feel the need to help, and to control others. You see yourself as saving or pursuer. You perceive others as victims who need your intervention constant, neglecting your own needs.

We're going to see a situation in which it clearly shows a relationship codependent:

Ana and Laura are friends for years. Ana has always felt responsible for solving the problems of Laura, who tends to rely on emotionally from her. Ana sacrifices constantly to be available and help you to Laura, even when it affects their own mental health and well-being. Laura, for her part, it is customary to rely on Ana and avoids making decisions for themselves, resorting always to your friend.

In relationships debilitating, alternate between these roles without realizing it, limiting the growth and well-being of all. Other examples are:

• The parents codependant overprotect their children, preventing their confidence and independent decision-making.

• In the couples co-dependent, one burdened with the problems of the other without setting limits healthy.

Read also: Why you must free yourself from your toxic relations?

How do you get rid as codependent?

To free yourself from codependency, you need to allow each person to take responsibility for their decisions and learn from their experiences. The challenge as codependent is to stop rescuing others and allow you to face your challenges. Be conscious of your needs, avoiding falling into the role of victim or persecutor, is a key aspect of the healing process.

Returning to the example, Ana must learn to set healthy boundaries and to encourage Laura to make decisions for themselves, and seek external support. At the same time, Laura must develop a greater emotional independence and self-confidence. Both can work together in strengthening their friendship through open communication and empathy, allowing us to grow individually and enjoying a more balanced and healthy.

It is worth the effort!

Set clear boundaries, to practice empathy and mutual respect helps to cultivate relationships more healthy. Breaking the codependency allows you to reconnect with yourself, improve your interactions and find a more harmonious balance in your relationships.

Remember that turn away from codependency is a gradual process that requires self-awareness and willingness to change the patterns. If you're in a relationship, codependent, they seek the support of a professional to heal and build relationships more healthy and meaningful.