Knowing the family constellations

The family constellations are an effective tool of psychotherapy that is focused on discovering how the affairs of a system, such as the family, can be afectándote in a negative way. This is so because there is an inheritance invisible in that which is stored your information and the stories of all the people who are part of that system. Without knowing it, you're in connection with this heritage invisible, that influences you at the subconscious level.

That's why, if you have problems that you have not been able to resolve, or goals have you not achieved, you should find out the cause deeper. In these cases, the technique family constellation is the most appropriate, because you get the information that you need to rid yourself of the problems and align yourself with what you want.

The origin of the family constellations  

Bert Hellinger, philosopher, theologian, educator, psychotherapist and former priest, is known for having created the family constellations. For 16 years he was a missionary in south Africa with the zulu; he learned their language, rituals and the dynamics of the group. Trained in multiple disciplines of psychotherapy and combined their knowledge to create their own method: the family constellations. With this, he began to experience in groups, learning and developing with the practice.

Hellinger lived a long life, from 1925 to 2019, adding up to the final controversial thoughts and working methods. I was lucky enough to train me with him and with the teachers who accompanied him in the beginning, because I was one of the pioneers prepare in family constellations when it first began. It was a wonderful experience to learn from him; their teachings are saved in my heart and use them in my own way —with another style, while preserving the wisdom that I received from your part.

What is the purpose?

In my professional experience of 30 years as a psychotherapist, the family constellations serve to resolve the majority of personal problems. With this tool you can treat many issues, among them:

• Money.
• Disease and lack of well-being.
• Professional matters.
• Conflict in your relationships partner with the members of your family, and other relationships that are important to you.

How does it work?

During a family constellation, the client presents their problem or intention; then, the therapist performs the necessary questions to obtain more information. Subsequently, the latter selects some of the elements or members of the family to represent them in the workplace. These are placed in the space of the session in a way that reflects the dynamics of the family or of the system. Through observation and interaction between the representatives, will reveal patterns and tensions are hidden, which gives clarity to the client and the possibility to search for solutions or reconciliations.

The family constellations are based on the principles and techniques drawn from various disciplines of psychotherapy. Some of the methods used include the psychoanalysis, the transactional analysis, the psychodrama, the Gestalt therapy, the ericksonian hypnosis and the neuro-linguistic programming. These approaches are combined to create a single method that allows you to explore and understand the family dynamics and systemic that may be affecting an individual.

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What are dangerous?

When you are inexperiencedthe family constellations can become dangerous. It is important that the facilitator or therapist is properly trained and has experience in this technique. Without a deep understanding of the principles of systemic and proper guidance, the constellations can generate more disorder in the system and confusion in the querent. It is essential that the facilitator has the sensitivity and skills necessary to handle situations emotionally intense, and also to provide a safe and supportive environment during the process.

Who can make one?

Make a family constellation requires a person with the proper training and a deep respect for the client and their family system. Preferably, you must have experience in psychotherapy, as well as having received specific training in family constellations and other techniques systemic. In addition, it is essential that the facilitator is service-oriented and committed to the well-being of the client, so that you can provide a space of trust and support for the therapeutic work.