Superando las decepciones para volver a confiar en ti misma

Have you felt that you have been disappointed? Go through a disappointment it is normal because it is part of life and it happens because it forms expectations are frustrated and produce a surprise that brings you to feel anger and sadness.

The problem is that, after a disappointment, it generates a belief limiting, which has to do with the lack of confidence in yourself, your life situation, and the lack of trust in others.

It is limiting because instead of boosting opportunities the prevents or limits; it does not let you re-open to experience.

When you think or say things like “I can't go back to trusting in the life”, “I can't go back to trust men”, “I can not trust women”, you're being negative, and that is something that you will not be allowed to flow. You're faced with a belief limiting. Does this sound familiar to you?

There are people that are enclosed in your pain and I do not welcome to something new. But there are others that go beyond the responsibility and that, instead of seeing how you took part in this deception, we blame the situation or another person. Then, to not take responsibility, are victims of what happens to them.

That is why it is important to identify the belief that generate and transform it. Below, I'll explain two actions that must be performed to overcome the disappointment.

1. Accept the pain

The first thing you should do is to accept the pain; if you do this, don't fight with what you feel and what you will let go.

To accept it, is diluted and you are able to identify what you can gain from this experience.

Life is full of losses that hurt; that's why, the most important thing is that you develop that skill, so you can overcome disappointments and turn them into lessons and learnings.

2. Learn from the experience

You'll be able to give this second pass through five stages:

Acknowledge what you disappointed. Date account of your disappointment: what is it that you wanted that was not given.

Assimilates your part. Think about how engaged you?; what did you do for this to happen? Sometimes you refuse to accept your responsibility, and you say, “well, I didn't do anything”. The reality is that there will always be something, however small.

Identifies the belief limiting. Here it is necessary that you ask: "what do you think about me?". If you say: "I am inadequate or inadequate"; "I am inadequate"; "I'm stupid or stupid", then your beliefs about who you are negative. Sometimes, the belief is in relation to other people, or life. ¡Identifícala!

Transform that belief. Change this negative belief into a positive and a support to move forward. For example —and here I'm going to say the phrase in the feminine; dila masculine if you're a man,—: “I am valuable”; “I am worthy”; “I am abundant”; “I put my limits”; “I give you my place.” You can do it! Works the belief “I am...” by creating a positive about it.

Fill yourself with mature confidence. There is more to understand that things don't always go as you plan, and that sometimes the fact that they do not go as you would expect it is better for you. Another important element of this trusted mature is that only you are responsible of a part, and it is often a small, everything else is dependent on other things. Assume your part and leave the rest to whom it belongs.